Updated: Aug 5, 2019
The new world of dating may seem a bit daunting and you may have more questions than answers. So here is my question: Are you thinking about dating again but you are not quite ready? I have a solution for you…It’s unusual - but it's incredible. You may never have heard of this, but this could be the answer you have been looking for.
The answer is: Start Dating Yourself! I get it, this might seem really weird. I mean, who dates themselves?
Here is my challenge to you… What if YOU began dating yourself? I know you don’t want to spend the rest of your life single and you usually associate dating as a couple thing. So here is a counterintuitive approach to prepare yourself for your next relationship.
When you begin dating yourself you will naturally be challenged. If may feel awkward. It may take something as you allow yourself to be with the discomfort. If you allow this process to occur you will begin to expand yourself and grow as a person, you will gain more self confidence and comfort with being by yourself. You will become clearer on what you want and what you like. And this is SEXY. I believe we love being around confident people that know themselves and what the want - What do you think?
If you don’t like spending time with yourself and then who will?
So what does dating yourself look like and how would you do it? Firstly to have a date with yourself is a very deliberate action… it’s not something that you end up doing by default. For example if you end up hanging out at home and watching a movie - this does not count as a date.
A deliberate action or plan would be deciding ahead of time you are watching a movie at home with yourself - You then have to plan it! Choose a movie you’ve wanted to see (you don't have to worry if anyone else like is ;-) Choose what you are going to wear, if you are doing it exactly how you want it, what does that look like for you? naked, cosy clothes, in your favourite jeans? Choose what kind of snacks or drinks would you have? You would always have a treat on a date… popcorn, a glass of wine/beer, m &m’s, fresh fruit or a cheese and meat platter… what is it for you?
On a date there is a bit of planning required to make is special and date-like. So it is necessary to plan how your date will be with yourself. The best thing about dating yourself is that you do not have to compromise, it is all about YOU!!! Isn’t that awesome!
Here are some date ideas…
Go to a movie
Go out for a nice sit down dinner
Go for a walk
Go for a drive
Have a dinner date at home… yes you may light a candle
Have a romantic bath
Go for ice-cream
Do your favourite hobby
Try a new activity… yoga, art class
Spend an evening listening to your favourite music
Write or Journal
Karaoke at home